Changing The Goal Posts

When I was a child I knew that if my parents promised something that it would happen. This meant that I developed an integrity system grounded in reliability which meant that my word is my bond and once I have made a commitment I do my best to keep my promises . What my parents failed to explain is that sadly I would be faced with many situations in my work and personal life where people would not think twice about changing their minds or letting me down.

It has taken me some years to stop taking this personally and just to accept the situation as ‘ someone else’s stuff’ which is probably one of the most liberating personal developments that I have experienced. Not being attached to an outcome removes all manner of barriers to tackling tasks and ventures that hitherto I would have talked myself out of before I began due to fear of failure or rejection or making a fool of myself.

So why do I mention this now? Because the goal posts for a project have changed in more than one way and for the first time today I realised that I haven’t let someone else’s actions paralyse me and stop me progressing towards my goals. I took a deep breath and carried on planning in the full knowledge that there will be folk that criticise, speculate, sabotage and support me for a host of different reasons. That’s fine. Now that I am not personally attached to the outcome my energy is released and I am able to listen to my intuition and get out of my own way.

I am comfortable in putting myself out in the universe as authentically and simply as possible knowing that I will attract the people and circumstances into my life that are great for me – those that I can connect with on a respectful and uncomplicated level. I can’t find the words to explain what a great feeling it is to connect like this. My life feels full of peace and mostly quite joyous. I no longer feel afraid or isolated in the way that I once did.

Changing the goal posts is no longer a problem and doesn’t phase me anymore. It’s just another door opening. The ability to ‘ not be attached to the outcome’ is something that I love to work on with my clients. Together Everything Becomes Possible.

Lynne Paris
Diversity Coach
www.my-diversity-coaching-gymn.net